Dating can be a minefield of drama. When you combine emotions with different personality types and shortcomings, it can be a real sh*t show. While nobody is perfect and everyone has their flaws, there are some things you should never tolerate. There is a big difference between being understanding over a minor mishap and being a total doormat. Here are 5 things you should never tolerate while dating.
Flakiness
If someone repeatedly cancels on you and doesn’t respect your time, you need to rethink how much effort this person is worth. Generally speaking, assuming you’re a straight woman who is reading this, the man should be doing the leg work in the beginning dating stages. Men need to hunt, let them. If he
isn’t taking initiative or is being flaky, he’s just not that into you. Don’t waste your time.
Booty Calls
Yea, I get it’s 2017 and women’s empowerment and yadda yadda yadda, but biology still exists and women should be more selective about who they’re sleeping with in order to avoid feeling heartbroken and used. Sorry, it’s just the way it is. I’m not here to sugar coat things, I’m here to give you the truth. Women are built differently when it comes to sex and that is perfectly ok, you just have to learn what your boundaries are. Having said that, if you set yourself up as the booty call girl, you will likely remain the booty call girl. If you want a relationship, be straight forward about that need. Don’t act like the casual sex “cool girl” all while wanting more. You will get used and it will end in heartbreak. Now, if you really can handle casual sex and that’s all you’re looking for, live your life and do what you want! This only applies if you’re actually looking for a real relationship
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Addiction Issues
It should be a no-brainer that dating someone with addiction issues is going to be a serious uphill battle. Of course it’s hard to turn away when you love someone, but if you’ve already tried to get them sober and they simply don’t want to change, you need to let go and let them fix their own life.
Abuse of Any Kind
Physical, emotional, and verbal abuse is unacceptable, period. Don’t justify an abuser’s behavior. It’s never ok and you should never tolerate someone who is trying to harm you.
Cheapness/Selfishness
As the saying goes, “cheap in the pocket book, cheap in the heart.” Cheapness is not just about money
, it’s about a person’s entire personality. Cheapness tends to go hand-in-hand with selfishness. If a man never treats you or never wants to pay it’s a red flag that he’s
a selfish person and this will turn into a litany of selfish behaviors. Major red flag!
